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Read the description for links and other ways to fix cydia crashing.
Best ssh program for mac
download cyberduck
or fugu
Best ssh programs for pc is winscp.download it here
http://winscp.net/eng/index.php
Another way for windows except diskaid is to
Download clearcydialistcache
and unzip the files to a handy location.(use winrar for pc , macs automatically will unzip the file)
Run the enclosed executable (Run ClearCydiaListCache.exe) and connect your device to your PC.
Click the button to start the fix.
or
Here are the additional steps if the above fail to fix crashing Cydia:
Downloaded and unzipped file (the above download link).
Connected iPhone to computer and backedup with iTunes.
Closed iTunes.
Ran .exe and clicked button.
When the program was finished, I disconnected the iPhone from the computer.A confirmation screen will appear shortly when it has finished.
or
Find the folder /var/lib/apt/lists (may have to backtrack to the var folder default log-in isnt always the root folder where var is)
I opted to back up all of the files I was deleting simply by dragging them to a folder on the desktop you dont have to, but having a way to undo stuff is usually a good option to have.
Delete all of the files except for the partial folder
Disconnect the SSH connection in your program
Restart cydia, done.